Love - That Unexplainable Feeling

Love . . . . Love . . . . Love . . . . Today I pondered what really the meaning of love was. And honestly, for the life of me I couldn’t think of a concise explanation. I mean I could sit here and define love for you. Give you a nicely placed group of words that sound right together. Go on and research the latest dictionary definitions of love with all the quotations and references. But in the real sense, can any of us actually define love? I mean I know we can come up with fancy words, “love is that deep feeling you have for someone or something”, “That feeling of great passion, excitement, ecstasy?” But in actual truth, do any of these definitions come close to the actual meaning?

Everyone has their definition of love and I’m not about to debased anybody’s idea. We are all at liberty to define it as we individually feel it. You can’t feel love like I do, so I can’t expect you to define it like I will. But I do expect you to give me something that takes me close, gives me almost if not a total picture of what you’re feeling.

Yes I know, a newly wedded bride will exclaim, “I love him!” when asked how she feels about her groom. A new father, “I can’t take my eyes off her!!” when asked about his baby daughter. But do these words actually convey the depth of their love? I guess you’re with me when I say no. There is one incident, though not half as elaborate as the others but to me it seemed perfect.

There was an incident at the Firm where I had my Industrial Attachment. My Boss’s wife was like a super elder sister to us all. She would ask about our lives and relationships. Offer us advice and generally tease us. So on this fateful day, she decided to pick on a senior colleague of mine. She kept on various topics till she came upon his BBM® display Picture. So she asked him, “who’s this girl on your DP?” And he smiled saying “oh someone special” “Want to tell me how you feel about her?”. And there was a long pause. We were all initially joining in on the fun, laughing. But when that happened we all paused and awaited the expected answer. And this dude was just quiet. He would open his mouth and then close it. Bearing in mind we all knew about this girl. They talked atleast thrice a day, chatted online, spent all day together virtually. We didn’t expect this little question to be the undoing of him. Our Boss’s wife smiled and said she had gotten the answer she needed.

We didn’t get it at all but now I look back on it, I think I totally get. Its not that he didn’t love her or didn’t  know what he loved her but there just weren’t enough words to describe it. He could have said he loved her, called her his star and world. But those worlds though mighty and significant didn’t quite cut it. I have often felt this way and this has lead me to frame up my own definition.

Love for me, is that unexplainable feeling. Its that feeling that leaves you speechless,the good kind of speechless. Makes you happy and takes you high but most importantly, that one feeling that shakes you to the core of your very being. - farhat